Here's a question: Let's say you are Facebook friends with a few
bloggers & through those bloggers you see other bloggers with whom
you'd consider yourself friends. There is still a degree of being
anon though in that you haven't personally revealed your last names to
each other. So is it weird or crossing a line to add them? One of my
bloggy friends was added in this manner & she is not ok with it. I
totally would be though-but I'm weird . So what would you think?
Presumptious? Or ok?
8 comments:
This is why I don't do Facebook... what if someone wants to be my friend and I don't want them to be? Awkward.
I'm totally OK with it and I've done it to other people. Usually I include a personal note with the friend request, though, to explain.
I go via email to ask if they want to be facebook friends. I'll be your facebook friend if you want! :)
Hmm, strange situation. I would think it's hard to stay anonymous there. Where do you draw the line between your real life and your anon one if that's what you're trying to do? I don't know. It seems strange to me that she wouldn't add you though.
I haven't had to deal with this because I've just kept the anonymous well, anonymous. I've just avoideded it so far but I wouldn't have any problem with someone adding me if they recognized me through someone else. Isn't that how you find a lot of people in the first place? I thought that was part of the point . . .
it's pretty easy to spot bloggers in other bloggers profiles
I agree with the include a note idea. But then, I'm not anonymous on my blog.
My Facebook account is all Swistlefied so it's not a problem for me, but if it WERE a problem I think what I'd do is do a friend request but include a note with it saying something about how I didn't know if they wanted to cross blogging/IRL stuff and _I_ didn't even know what _I_ wanted so I'd be totally cool with it if they just ignored the friend request and I just wouldn't look to see if it had been accepted or not.
I think it would be okay. I mean, if they wanted to remain totally anonymous then would they have joined with any bloggers?
Plus, yea, they can choose to ignore you.
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